Not to share love, but to increase it. The mother shared the secrets of raising children

“The main thing is that every child feels that he is loved,” said Anastasia Danilovich. Together with her husband Nikolai, she brings up eight-year-old Artem, three-year-old Valeria and two-month-old Veronica. How the life of the family changes with the appearance of a younger child, why it is important to find time for everyone, which helps to cope with everyday worries, according to the Minsk-Novosti correspondent.

The Way to a Big Family

The new heroes of the project of the information agency "Minsk-Novosti" "Tretsi - Batska" - Anastasia and Nikolai Danilovichi. The couple met eight years ago thanks to mutual friends. Soon we got married, and the firstborn Artem appeared in the family. Five years later, in 2023, Valeria was born, and a couple of months ago Danilovichi became parents for the third time - they had a younger daughter Veronica.

- We all somehow quickly turned out: we met, fell in love, got married, a son was born. We always wanted a big family, so over time we had two daughters – Valeria and Veronica. Now there are five of us, and it's such a joy to see children grow up together, communicate, care for each other. Of course, with three children, there are more worries, but also joy in the house increased, the mother of many children shared.

Today A. Danilovich is on maternity leave. By profession, she is a baker-confectioner, and before the birth of children worked as a checker-cashier. Her husband works as an engineer in a private car repair company. The family lives in Minsk, where they moved from the village of Chisti Molodechno district.

- There are more opportunities in the capital, especially for children, so we decided to move. But we do not want to give up country life. In summer and on weekends, we return to our house, do the garden, relax in nature, the interlocutor noted.

Everyone needs a mom

When the woman told the children that soon they will have a younger sister, eight-year-old Artem admitted that he dreamed of a brother. But the acquaintance with little Veronica changed his mind: now the eldest son gladly helps his mother and takes care of the baby. Three-year-old Valeria also does not stand aside and tries to participate in everything that concerns her sister.

- Artyom is very responsible. He has helped with Leroy before, and now he is watching Veronica with interest, the interlocutor added. The older daughter still sees her sister as a doll. She wants to be near the baby, talk to her, rock her. So far, everything is going well, and I am very happy that the children have accepted my sister in this way.

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Most of all, after the birth of the youngest daughter, the woman worried about how to manage to pay attention to all three. When the baby cries at home at the same time, the eldest daughter asks for help, and the son wants to show his mother his crafts, it is easy to get lost. But gradually A. Danilovich learned to combine everyday activities and the needs of children, leaving none of them without attention.

- At first it was unusual: it seems that everyone needs something at the same time, and you just don’t know what to grab. And then you realize that you can do everything gradually. You take Veronica in your arms, Valery by the hand, and you go to Artem's to see what he did. Sometimes the elder himself distracts his sister while I am busy with the baby. The main thing is not to dismiss children when they ask for attention, and not to let them feel that now everything is only for the younger, shared the mother of many children.

Grandmothers also help the family. They can come, look after the children or briefly replace the parents if the need arises. According to the heroine, such support is especially important when children are young and everyone needs adult care.

Love is enough for everyone

If after the birth of the first child, A. Danilovich often worried and did not always understand how to deal with the baby, now much is given to her calmer. Eight years of experience, and with it, self-confidence.

- With the first child, you still do not know much, the interlocutor explained. He's crying and you're trying to figure out what happened. Now you are better versed in such things, understand the baby by his behavior and do not worry about every little thing.

However, she admits that giving the same amount of time to all children is not easy. Veronica is still very small and constantly needs her mother, and the elders also need communication, help and joint pastime. So you have to find balance and learn to distribute attention.

- I am sure that love is not shared, but only multiplies at the birth of children, Danilovich added. The younger one just needs more time now because she can't do anything by herself yet. The older ones can play with each other, do something, help me. It is important that every child feels loved.

Even on the busiest of days, she said, it's important to remember that children grow up quickly. Sometimes fatigue accumulates by the evening, but it is worth looking into the cribs, as everyday experiences fade into the background.

- Sometimes, during the day you get tired, you start to worry about some small things, and in the evening you look at the children and think: why did I worry so much? They're growing so fast. Someday they will grow up, move away, and the apartment will be quiet. So I try to appreciate the time while they are small, — said the interlocutor.

"Batskava Kashulya" in memory

One of the first important events in the life of two-month-old Veronica was baptism. For the sacrament, the parents chose “Batsikava Kashulu” – a linen baptismal shirt with Belarusian ornament, which the family received as part of the Republican action “Tretsi – Batskaа”.

A. Danilovich learned about the project during pregnancy, when she saw a publication on social networks about the presentation of a present to other parents with many children.

- I saw this action and thought: interesting, and we will receive such a gift? – shared memories of the heroine. When I got my shirt, it was a pleasure. It is so beautiful, made of natural linen. And with her passed a legend, the words of which touched me to the core.

The sacrament took place on the fortieth day after the birth of the girl in the Church of the Intercession of the Most Holy Mother of God in the village of Red. Godparents Veronica became the brother of a mother with many children and her friend, thanks to whom the future spouses once met.

- Flowers will wither, many things will be forgotten, and such a gift will remain. After many years, you can get a shirt, remember the day of the baptism, look at it with Veronica and tell how it was. I really like the idea: it's a thing with a history that can be preserved for generations to come. We will certainly take care of it, shared A. Danilovich.

“The more children, the more love and joy.”

For those who are just thinking about replenishment, the heroine advises not to scare yourself in advance. In her opinion, it is impossible to foresee all the difficulties that will have to face, and after the birth of the baby, the family gradually finds its rhythm.

- Many people say that one child is not easy, so they do not even think about the second or third. Of course, expenses and worries increase, but you should not give up a large family just out of fear. When children grow up together, they learn to communicate, care for each other, support each other. And it is expensive, said the interlocutor.

In her opinion, education is not a race for expensive things and better conditions. It is much more important to give children love, attention and clear moral guidelines – something that will really stay with a person for life.

- Yes, with three children, it can be noisy, sometimes everyone argues, shares something, and by the evening you get tired. But then they run up, they hug you, and you realize it's all happiness. The more children there are, the more love and joy there is in the house. I have no regrets and if I could go back eight years, I would not change anything, Danilovich said.

For reference

The republican project “Tretsi-Batsika” started on June 1, 2026. From that moment on, families in which a third child is born receive Batskawa Kashulu on behalf of the President. The gift is placed in a wooden kuffar together with the author's legend.

Photo by Karolina Prakofieva