Experts told whether it is possible to be friends with the boss

It is possible to make friends with the head, but such friendship requires the ability to distinguish between personal and professional relations, experts say. In the evening, they say, you can talk heart-to-heart, and in the morning the boss has to choose between your offer and another, which may be more effective.

According to the expert Andrey Shapenko, such friendship is possible only when neither side requires that it be constantly confirmed by professional concessions. In Russian organizations, this gap is often closed by personal loyalty: proximity to the authorities gives protection, and in return, support for his decisions is assumed.

“It is chosen not only on merit, but also on trust and personal relationships; promoted in groups, brought with them trusted people. There is a clear security logic to this: a leader needs someone to rely on. The problem begins when reliability is measured by willingness to agree, and professional objection is perceived as betrayal.

According to Shapenko, the main question is not whether you can be friends with your boss, but how much independence is preserved in this friendship.

“Can you argue at work without threatening relationships? Can he refuse you without buying your favor with concessions? Subordination denotes the limits of authority. And the ability to hold those boundaries when you are personally hurt or uncomfortable already requires maturity from both.

Expert Maria Koleda believes that friendly, not just good relations with subordinates is not the best option for performing tasks, and first of all it harms the leader himself. When you need to urgently complete a task or work overtime, a subordinate in a friendly relationship can refuse, citing personal plans - as a result, the case suffers, and the leader loses authority.

Another expert, Ekaterina Movsesyan, adds that it is better to build effective work on clear agreements, professional trust and the preservation of borders. It is important for a manager to give feedback, including negative feedback, and to receive a constructive rather than emotional response. For young workers, normal human communication is important, but it should be regarded more as a trusting partnership than friendship in the full sense.

Earlier, the Russians were told whether it is possible not to go to work in bad weather.

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